IWSG: Getting the Fizz Back


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Isn’t it easier to motivate others than to self-motivate?  Unless you’re an egomaniac, that is. In my previous jobs, I used to love motivating others and helping them to take control and achieve their goals. Their success felt like my success. But now I’m out on my own, those skills seemed to have hibernated.  Don’t misunderstand – I write, research and work hard every day but the zest that used to fizz in my stomach (which I attribute to motivation) is too quiet – not even a slight ‘blub’.  So, this month I reached out and with the help of three main components, I’ve got some of that fizz back.

1)   I joined an on-line writing group! The members of the group have been so welcoming, freely given me constructive criticism of my words and boosted my confidence with praise and support.  Bubbles!

2)   I read a non-fiction book which advised to mark things as URGENT rather than give oneself a faraway date to achieve something by. This reminded me that I used to work in this way for others so why not for myself!  More bubbles!

3)   I read a blog post at Writer's Zen called 'I'm Hiring Myself', which reminded me that I am not alone with this fizz-less feeling! Great post! If you haven’t read it, I would encourage you to do so. Extra popping bubbles!

Sometimes, even though things seem to be progressing, the fizz does disappear from time to time and before everything turns flat, something new or out of the ordinary needs to be explored. Oh my life, I would make an excellent marriage counsellor!!

Have you done anything new this month? Do you have difficulties with self-motivation?

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  1. I constantly have difficulties with self-motivation! But I think you've got the right idea - trying something new and different always puts the excitement back into writing for me too :). Best of luck with your writing!

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    1. Thank you, Rachel. And you keep at it too!! So pleased things are going well for you.

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  2. It was nice reading how you have gotten a grip on motivating yourself. I do some of those same things. In the area where I live I don't have English speaking writers around me, so I had to learn how to keep myself motivated very early in my writing.

    Shalom aleichem,
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    http://www.patgarciaandeverythingmustchange.com/2016/06/iwsg-june-2016-recovery-is-not-matter.html

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    1. Thanks for sharing, Pat. It's lovely to 'see' you. Self-motivation uses up so much more energy than passing it on. Like with everything else, it'll probably get easier :)

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  3. I'm the ultimate lazy writer and find it so much easier to support and motivate others. Glad you got your fizz back.

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  4. When it comes to the drudgery, oh yeah! I want that re-organization done, but damn I hate doing it!
    Writing is different, but sometimes I want to write the fun stuff and leave the hard stuff alone. Flash's are such fun, but finishing that novel, hmm...

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    1. :) It is a hard slog. But your novels are brilliant and so gripping. Thanks for sharing, Yolanda. Always a pleasure to 'see' you.

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  5. Good for you, Nic. You're finding resources and ways to help you get where you want to go. I started something new a few months ago - tap dancing. And it's feeding my soul and, I think, fueling my creativity in some crazy way.

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    1. So pleased your tapping away, Karen. I tried it once... hmmm... feet are a tricky thing :) Wish you a lovely week.

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  6. I can relate. I can help others, but find it so hard to motivate myself. I definitely have to work on my fizz. I'm glad you got some of your fizz back. You definitely do work hard. Wishing you lots and lots of fizz:)

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    1. Thank you, Murees. Sending a magnum of fizz your way :) Take good care and keep writing. You're great!!

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  7. There's nothing better than finding a good writing group. Not only for the support, but you'll find you learn so much during the process of critting. Congratulations on taking the step!

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    1. Thank you, Ken. I've already learned a lot. The most surprising thing is that you can pick up on things in other people's work but fail to see it in your own. I'm hoping I get better at self-critting.

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  8. Congrats on joining an online writing group! And I love the idea of marking things as URGENT. It stops us from procrastinating.

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    1. URGENT is great. I've already accomplished most of my weekly writing tasks this week! YAY!

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  9. LOL - everything on my list is urgent. Good thing it's a short list today.

    I lost my fizz for a very long time which is why I really want to finish my current project.

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    1. :) I think your fizz was just focused on other things, Diane. Wishing you lots of fun with your current project.

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  10. It is often easier to motivate others isn't it? I certainly feel like I lose my fizz sometimes. It might come back naturally when it's ready but often I have to encourage it! Sometimes just tidying my desk, having a clear out or buying a nice new notebook is enough.

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    1. I've been known to sort cupboards when I've needed to find my fizz. Naturally I didn't find it in the cupboard but once things are sorted and organised my mind frees up no-end.

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  11. Great post, Nicola! I want to join the IWSG group but have just published a post about the 100th Birthday of the National Park Service instead of helping writers. I will join on the first Wednesday of July so that I can talk about my insecurities--which are many. I need to join on the first day of a post, right? I've also got to understand how to display the links like you all do. Thanks for these tips!

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    1. Hi Victoria. Great to 'meet' you. You can join IWSG at anytime. So do it as soon as you get a minute. It only takes a couple of ticks :) Since I joined, I have had so much support and encouragement. It really is a super community to be a part of. I would have gone totally insane by now if I hadn't stumbled upon it. Look forward to seeing you there. Congratulations on the 100th birthday of the National Park Service. Such a worth while cause.

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  12. You are positively fizzy! Something new...yes, I think it's important to continuously introduce something new in life so why not in writing life, too?

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    1. Just been out in the rain so even my hair is fizzing :) Thanks for popping by Nicki.

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  13. Self motivation has never been a problem for me. Energy, brain power, time... Those are the problem. Anyone have some I can borrow?

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    1. I don't believe you Crystal :) You have so much energy and brain power! And you are such an inspiration - so, thank you! Can't help you with the time factor. It's its own entity.

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  14. My self-motivation comes and goes. Some things I'm very good about (writing, exercise). Others, not as much (editing, reading more, research). I'm glad you've found your fizz. :)

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    1. Thank you, Cherie. I am always impressed to read about your writing and exercise regime. I'm gonna have to work on the sport thing - I've been trying but it ain't been happening the last few weeks. Thanks so much for popping over.

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  15. There are times I feel like I've left the cap off my muse, and it has gone stale, too! :-) Really a fine post. All we can do is keep putting one word after another, edit, and do it again. :-) If our dream is a good one, it will sustain us through the down times.

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    1. I love that last line, Roland! My dream is A-mazing so .... :) My muse sometimes goes missing to. I've found him in all sorts of places. The scoundral is hard to tie down :)Thanks so much for popping by.

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  16. I'm doing it. But I understand what you mean. The feeling of bliss is weak. I'm excited, but not in the way I want to be. Which is probably a form of insecurity. Will all this work pan out? Another reason why I'm meditating every single day. TG May is over! LOL. Happy IWSG, Nicola.

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    1. I'm sending you lots of June Fizz, Joylene. Loving the new picture! Thanks so much for popping over.

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  17. I am an egomaniac, so I'm not sure what to do there. ;) I'm horrible at motivating other people. Mostly, I just say, "DO IT!" in my best mom voice and follow it up with a smile. Perhaps that's why I'm not popular...

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    1. :) You do make me laugh and you are inspirational, Loni. Thanks so much for coming by.

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  18. I like how you describe the fizz in your tummy. Yes, I was down for awhile in May--not only because I had stomach flu--but because book sales were down and I couldn't get motivated to write. I finally dragged out a piece to sub to my crit group, and they went over the top loving the writing. Say what? Maybe it's good to take some time to get away and stew about it and then the bubbles will come back!

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    1. I'm not published yet, J.Q. but I have read that one shouldn't spend too much time looking at the sales. It does bring you down. I'd be really happy to give you a spot on my blog if you want to promote yourself. Just let me know. So happy, that you've had some support and encouragement from your crit group. Keep writing and keep smiling!! And if the bubbles don't come back, open a bottle of Champagne :) That always helps :)

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  19. Ha, ha, fizz. I love it. I'm usually pretty good at self-motivating. Most of the time. Yay for your new writing group, and that Zen post sounds interesting. I'll have to head over there. Happy IWSG Day!

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    1. Happy IWSG Day, Lori. Thanks so much for popping by.

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  20. "I'm hiring myself"...I like how they put that:) It very much becomes an independent business at some point in each writer's journey.

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  21. I am the same way! I think it's easier to motivate my writer friends because I can see their talent and their potential. Then when it comes to myself, those evil thoughts of- well, maybe you're a delusional hack the difference between and allegory and metaphor? I'd never be so mean to a friend.

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    1. We need to learn to respect ourselves a bit more, I think, Elizabeth. We can be far too tough - bordering on bullying ourselves :) Thanks so much for popping by.

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  22. Good for you! It is so much easier to motivate others than it is to motivate ourselves. I wonder why that is? I've actually been feeling really inspired these days. Fingers crossed that the feeling lasts.

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    1. Great news, Quanie. Long may that inspiration bloom. Thanks so much for coming over.

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  23. Motivation follows action. Hooray for the fizz being back!

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    1. Thank you! Have a lovely day.

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  24. I often have problems with self-motivation. I'll admit that I'm lazy when it comes to doing things on my own. When I've had a job I've been an ambitious worker, but when not working I seem to get in a slump. Now in retirement it's gotten somewhat bad as far as motivating myself in pursuing dreams. Housework is a different story--I'll get on a binge and get a lot done. I guess it depends, but right now the self-motivation is lacking.

    Good for you in getting refizzed.

    Arlee Bird
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    1. I'm sending some of my fizz through the ether, Arlee. Be sure to grab some :)

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  25. That Zen perspective sounds perfect. I want to read that post. As to self-motivation, I'm motivated when I think I'm plunking down the right words in some kind of stellar order. If I'm not, I have a hard time moving forward.

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    1. I know that feeling. Thanks for popping by, Lee. Have a super rest of the week.

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  26. I know what you mean. I won't be able to motivate anyone ever, I'm so weak myself with bad news.

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    1. I'm throwing loads of fizz about for everyone, Olivia. Grab some as it passes over :) Thanks for visiting.

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  27. I seem to be finding so many things to do other than writing lately so I'm thinking it's my motivation problem.

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    1. I have those weeks too but then I have a writing binge to make up for it. I've also been known to be called out of bed in the middle of the night, by characters, who insist I get up and write a couple of pages.

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  28. What a marvelous way of putting it! Yes, I have my fizz-less days, but there is a lot of inspiration out there like in good books and sympathetic writers. :)

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    1. I agree, Christine. Thanks so much for popping by. Lovely to 'see' you. I hope the world of Christine is a happy one at the moment.

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  29. I think you would make a great marriage counsellor, but I'm the opposite. Far easier to motivate myself (just get my head down and keep plodding) than others. People will do things when they're ready and you can't control them at all; I just try to be as encouraging as possible with a sympathetic set of ears.

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    1. Thanks for sharing, Lexa. Lovely to 'see' you.

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  30. For months, I've been dealing with the "fizz-less" weird place I was in. It wasn't writer's block, because the words were there and ready to come out, but that drive was depressed by so many life-factors. But like you, things are "fizzing" up again, thanks to my daughter's enthusiasm and inspiration.

    Thanks for sharing what's sparking your "fizz". Keep up with it!

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    1. Daughter's are great for that aren't they? :) Sending loads of fizz your way :) Have a great week.

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  31. Excellent post! I must say that self motivation is not a problem as long as the goal is clear. Unfortunately, I've let my writing slip. :( I need to set a clear goal in that department!

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    1. Sending some fizz your way, Darla :) Thank you for popping by.

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  32. Haven't read the 'I'm hiring myself' blog post yet, but that title sounds very like my current attitude. I'm writing for me - the results are for other people but the process is for me alone and I should enjoy it and do it A LOT!

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    1. That's the right approach, Patsy. So pleased life is good!

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  33. Glad some good things have happened for you that keep you motivated. It so true that now and again we lose our fizz.

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  34. Sometimes we all lose the fizz for a bit :) It sounds like you're back on path!

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    1. I hope so. The sun has finally made an appearance. That always helps.

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  35. good for you and best of luck

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  36. Where did you find your online critique group? I need to find one of those!

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    1. I found out about this womag writing group from IWSG member, Patsy Collins. Hope all is well, Stephanie.

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  37. These are great steps. Sometimes I step out, do something new, and I'm all the better for it.

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    1. Thank you, Medeia. A change is as good as a rest, so they say :)

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  38. What a great post, Nicola - I think it happens to all of us if we work from home. I used to be far more organised and got more done, more quickly when I also worked part-time and was studying at the same time as writing!

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    1. Same here, Rosemary :) Thank you for popping by. So pleased you enjoyed a few days with friends.

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  39. Love that the bubbles are fizzing for you. Keep it up! (And yes, I agree it's so much easier to encourage others - I do it in my day job all the time, and rarely listen to my own advice!)

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    1. Yes, we must listen to our own advice. We'd be so much better off for it :)

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  40. I have no trouble with self-motivation, but my body and spirit seem to have burned out for a bit, and I find myself striving that much harder to get work done.

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    1. So pleased you have the drive and the fizz to work through the slumps. Good for you! Thank you so much for taking the time to visit :)

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  41. The "work-at-home" label carries with it the challenge of self-motivation. I am fine most days, but there are times when the lows hit hard and then, it is an uphill task to get back to the routine. I am glad you found the bubbles!

    I thought IWSG was a Thursday event. Hugs and thank you for coming by my blog, Nicola. Always such a pleasure to see you!

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    1. The 'work at home' certainly does need some readjusting. It was so much easier to work to tight deadlines when they were someone else's - no gardens or housey things to distract :)Thank you for your encouragement and kindness, Vidya. I'm so pleased to have met you through the A to Z challenge. You make me smile at least once a day :)

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  42. Such an interesting post to read and great for this group to support writers. Guess, June will be the month to pitch changes in one's personal life and to get things rolled up one's sleeves. Perhaps, I will work on the book that lay unattended for years:)

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    1. Good luck with revisiting your book, Vishal. It's a hard slog but so worth it! Thank you for visiting. It's lovely to 'meet' you.

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  43. I made it to this fizzy party...a bit late, but I'm here!
    Sometimes the fizz doesn't really go away, it's just channeled in a different direction.
    The one thing that always inspires me and gets the creative juices flowing, is reading.
    Great to read that your fizz is back!
    Keep those bubbles flowing!
    Writer In Transit

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    1. Glad you made it Michelle. There's always plenty of bubbles in my fridge - you know, waiting for that first publication :)

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  44. Fizz is a perfect word. We need that in our lives and you've found a way to put it into yours! One of my best decisions was to take a chance and join a writers group. I learned so much, and not just about writing. Here's to more of those jumping into something new decisions! Here's to more fizz.

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