B is for Bashful



I think all writers suffer with bashfulness at some point. We are easily embarrassed when we share our work on its first outing and we can be quite shy when discussing our writing career with people outside of the writing world. But we quickly learn that being bashful doesn’t move us forward and can hinder our progress. So, out with the bashful and in with the brave and bold.

As writers, we should hold our heads high and believe in ourselves (easier said than done). Be brave and confident when we present our work to the world (IWSG can help with that). Be bold when we talk about our chosen career path (practise in front of the mirror). After all, we have a responsibility to our readers to set our words free.

Has your bashfulness impeded your progress? Are you naturally brave or bold?

Comments

  1. bashfulness has always been my problem, even today

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Unfortunatley, it is quite easy to accomplish. But I'm sending some boldness your way through the ether :)Thank you for visiting.

      Delete
    2. that's exceedingly nice of you, thanks

      Delete
  2. Very true. Of course my problem is that once I got over being bashful, people start wishing I'd shut up! I just can't win!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. :) Shutting up would be boring. You carry on :) Thank you for visiting.

      Delete
  3. What a great post and I don't know how much I needed it! I'm a shy introvert by nature so this speaks loudly to me. Thanks!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Aaww thank you, Bish. You have a lovely day!

      Delete
  4. I'm not embarrassed sharing my work one on one but if there was a crowd...? Hmm, then I'd get nervous.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I'm still at the one to one nervous stage :)

      Delete
  5. You have hit the nail on the head with this one. Even though blogging is not very profitable and takes a lot of work, it has helped me with having others see my writing. It is a bit fearsome.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I've learned so much from other writers blogs. It is such a lovely and sharing community. Thanks for visiting Ann.

      Delete
  6. I go from being bashful to brave depending on my situation. Sometimes reading a new piece in writing circle brings out my shy side. When I've done author talks I've had to find my brave side pretty quickly.
    Fran
    @FranClarkAuthor
    Writing Women’s Fiction

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I can be brave if I'm fully prepared for something. The nerves only appear if I haven't done the work. Thank you so much for popping by Fran.

      Delete
  7. I'm bashful, bashful, bashful... For the longest time I had an anonymous blog. And even now I don't really share much on social media.. :D
    But its getting better! :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Seena. It's lovely to 'see' you.

      Delete
  8. I've found it easier online. In the real world, I don't often mention my books to others.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I admire that you can go out and perform your music to others. I think the key is to enjoy what we do and be proud to share it with others.

      Delete
  9. It has, mainly because I make the most embarrassing grammar mistakes possible, and not even on purpose. LOL
    I've risen above it, although not everyone else I know has. :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I tend to make up words because I think they should exist :) Thank you for visiting!

      Delete
  10. An extremely fitting word for most of us:)

    ReplyDelete
  11. I've learned to stop being so shy about what I do and put my work out there. I don't talk much about what I do, but when I'm asked, you bet I get to it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. That's a great positive approach. I'm working on it :) Thanks so much for visiting.

      Delete
  12. I do cringe when someone I know says they are reading one of my books. I've been at this for a while now, but my bashfulness hasn't lessened. :-(

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Some bashfulness keeps us grounded. Thanks so much for sharing.

      Delete
  13. I kept my writing secret for years. Even when I started getting things published I only told my closest family. These days, if I'm asked what my occupation is I can say 'writer' without blushing, but I hate talking about what I'm writing!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for sharing, Linda. Always lovely to 'see' you. Have a lovely weekend.

      Delete
  14. The only thing I'm shy about is my writing. It's difficult to put my creations out there.
    Susan Says

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I know what you mean. In my previous job, I was confident because I knew I was good at it. Now I'm back to the learning stage and I feel quite humble. Thank you for stopping by.

      Delete
  15. Oh how right you are! I think the hardest thing for almost every writer is learning the art of self promotion. But I'm learning... See. Please click on my link to read about my characters.
    @ScarlettBraden from
    Frankly Scarlett

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for visiting, Scarlett.

      Delete
  16. Nice post! I enjoyed finding your blog through the A to Z Blog Challenge. Good luck with A to Z!
    Trisha Faye (www.trishafaye.wordpress.com
    Vintage Daze (www.vintagedazecolumn.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks Trisha. Lovely of you to find me. Have a great weekend.

      Delete
  17. I agree. I studied creative writing in college and found it offensive when professors started their classes by insulting the students, claiming they needed to prepare themselves for the real world of writing--and that was all they did to prepare their students, teach them insecurity. Writers should be encouraged to remain strong and proud. Thank you for this post.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Darla. I spent 20 years teaching and I hated it when others discouraged rather than encourage. There is no need. The key is to teach students the skills on how to cope and to identify their strengths. Thanks so much for visiting.

      Delete
  18. It's tough to balance that part of my brain that says not to be proud and conceited with being confident in my work. I'm terrible at comparing myself to everyone and every piece I've ever read. It's hard to ever be "good enough" when doing that. You're right that bashfulness doesn't do a writer any favors! Good post!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Amy. Comparing to others can most definitely be a downfall. Identifying ones own strengths is key. Wishing you lots of self confidence. Thanks for sharing.

      Delete
  19. Bashfulness can be a real problem. I have to force myself to tell people about my books, but the more I do it, the easier it gets.
    Elizabeth Hein - Scribbling in the Storage Room

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Practice makes perfect :) Thanks so much for popping over. Much appreciated.

      Delete
  20. Yes, I can be terribly bashful. It's something I have to deal with in every part of my life. If anything, I'm less shy about sharing my writing than other things :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's great that you aren't so shy when you share your writing. A friend of mine used to pretend she was one of her characters when she experienced too many nerves. Thank you for visiting.

      Delete
  21. I'm brave online...but shy in the real world.
    However, I'm very confident in front of my class (as a teacher) but I don't do public speaking well.
    Confusing hey?
    Writer In Transit

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for coming by Michelle. I am also confident when I'm teaching. Funny isn't it. When we feel insecure, we should just put our teacher head on. That would solve the problem :)

      Delete
  22. I am brave online and outgoing in person, but when it comes to talking about my books, I get my tongue in a knot. If I'm talking about crafting I have an easier time of it, but maybe that's because I've been doing it longer and I am not yet published. I'm going to get there though! That's my goal with everything I do: get my work out there for people to read, and teach others everything I know about crocheting amigurumi. Being bold will definitely serve me well in getting there. Great post! Thank you for visiting me over at Ink & Stitches: http://blog.jhwinter.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I admire that you pass on your knowledge, Julianne. I love to share what I know whilst learning from others about the things I need to improve. Thanks so much for your lovely comment and sharing your experience. Have a great weekend.

      Delete
  23. Nicola, depends on the writing project and often how much we want one! I'd say mostly bold and brave, most of the time!


    Vidya Sury having fun with cohost Damyanti's D's Company and four blogs in the #AtoZChallenge
    Vidya Sury, Collecting Smiles
    Be Healthy, Be Happy
    Life Hacks for Diabetics
    Life Hacks for Happiness

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I love your positive approach to life. Thank you for sharing it Vidya. Much appreciated.

      Delete
  24. I'm usually quite bold, but I don't like sharing rough drafts with people to read.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's a good idea not to share rough drafts. They are for our eyes only :)

      Delete
  25. I'm a bold introvert. I lack that middle ground It's all or nothing. But wifey helps balance out finding that middle ground.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We wives are good at that :) Really enjoying your A to Z posts, Stephen. Thank you for visiting my blog.

      Delete
  26. I tend to be bashful with my writing, but I'm beginning to emerge on a more steady basis. I provided B for Brave today. Great minds think alike!!! Continue best wishes for the A to Z Challenge!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you, Donna. I'm having a lot of fun visiting and reading other blogs, like yours :)

      Delete
  27. My shyness is an obstacle for marketing my books or selling them at my author's table at cons.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I hope the obstacle gives way, Roland. I love your writing and so do many more. Thanks so much for your support and visiting my blog.

      Delete
  28. I was a shy child being the first in our family, but when I came to Canada and became divorced, it was up to me to make decisions and act upon them. As a result, my confidence grew. I don't have too much shyness anymore, about anything.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Good for you! Really pleased you are taking control. Such a positive move. Thank you for sharing and for visiting.

      Delete
  29. Very well said! I'm definitely bashful when talking about my writing with anyone other than my closest family members. I think the fact that quite a close friend has been a bit less than supportive has probably got me thinking: "Let my writing do the talking". Otherwise talking about it feels almost presumptuous - did I honestly think I was a writer, rather than just toying at a hobby? I do agree that we have to be brave, I think I'm just trying to be brave quietly.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Quietly brave is positive and I love that you let your writing do the talking :) Thanks so much for popping over and sharing your experience. Greatly appreciated.

      Delete
  30. Very true. I feel I can't call myself a writer because I'm unpublished. That shouldn't really be the criteria should it? Visiting from Australia via A-Z challenge.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes you can call yourself a writer. I'm not yet published but I write everyday. The first thing I think about when I wake up is writing and the last thing I think about before I sleep is writing. And I dream about it. So, I am a writer and proud of it. The publishing part is on the horizon for both of us! Thank you so much for visiting. Please pop over again.

      Delete
  31. Hi there!

    I’m stopping by from the #AtoZChallenge. I'm VERY much the introvert and connected with your post.

    I have two blogs in this challenge…my author blog at THE STORY CATCHER (www.donnalmartin.com) and my KICKS Kids Club blog (www.kickskidsclub.blogspot.com.

    If you get a chance, check them out and good luck with the challenge!

    ReplyDelete
  32. My shyness can keep me from trying new things if I let it. Guess what? I don't. I'm an outgoing introvert and anytime I'm down I'll fake it til I'm back up again. Boom. *Drops mike*

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Good for you!! Life is too short to allow shyness to stop us from exploring new things. And faking it is what makes us interesting :)

      Delete
  33. I was lucky enough to be asked to be a judge for a short story competition. At the presentation of the awards the guest speaker was Sir Tim Rice. We were seated at the same table and my heart was in my mouth when he asked me about my writing. Luckily, I think I didn't make a complete fool of myself but I think my cheeks were pretty red!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. You have so much to celebrate Wendy and have worked so hard to achieve your writing accomplishments. Shout it out LOUD!!! :)

      Delete
  34. I don't think I could ever be brave or bold when it comes to writing. I am very shy - always have been. That's why I love blogging - can have a nice chat without tripping over my embarrassment :-) I don't think there is any hope for me xx

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. There is always hope, Teresa and you are such a super writer. I think it's okay to be shy as long as it doesn't hinder one's progress. Your writing achievements are so admirable, I don't think you should worry too much :) Thanks so much for sharing.

      Delete
  35. I've always been very, very bashful about being a writer. I've had such a hard time saying the word, admitting it. Because then I feel like if I fail I'll be judged or laughed at or whatever. So yea, I have this problem! I didn't even tell my family I had a book published in 2014 until 11 months AFTER it was released, that's how unsure I was! I'm getting better, but it is still hard!

    Good luck and see you around the A to Z challenge!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh Kat. It is so sad that you didn't share your accomplishment but at least you can do that all in the blogging world. So, belated, CONGRATULATIONS on your publication!!! Thank you for sharing your experience and for visiting. Lovely to 'see' you.

      Delete
  36. I am so bad about that. I don't why it's so hard to tell people I'm a writer. People either think it's means I'm rich or lazy and don't want a job.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Generally, the word writer seems to mean rich amongst the non-writing world. I don't know what dictionary they use but it ain't the same as ours :):) Thanks for popping over Elizabeth.

      Delete
  37. Oh wow... yeah, I definitely fall into the bashful category...I pretty much cringe every time I hit "post." I'm working on it though. Good luck on the challenge! We're doing “I’ve Got The Music In Me” this year on The Road We’ve Shared. – looking at how important music is in the Down syndrome community. I hope you’ll stop by and see/hear! http://theroadweveshared.com/category/a-to-z-blogging-challenge-2016

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Don't worry about hitting the 'post' button, Stephanie. The great thing is if we later find an error we can go back and change it. But I do relate. I used to spend hours and hours writing a blog post and it was only after a few years of practice that I decided I was being a bit too pernickity and should just get it out there. Thank you for dropping in.

      Delete
  38. B is for Bashful. Maybe many writers are introverts, more interested in observing and reflecting than acting. It does take courage to assert that we are writers, proud to be writers, and open up our writing to whomever wants to take a look. Where I'm most bashful is in the marketing. Aargh! But I will persevere. Thank you for visiting my B. Best for the rest of the AtoZ blogging!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I think many of us have a hang-up about the marketing, Beth but with each others' support, we'll get it down :) Thanks for dropping by.

      Delete
  39. We can be so bashful in anything we do where we put our heart and soul into. If we know people and they tell us something we don't want to hear, we get very, very down on ourselves. I think that is why it's easier to show our works to the masses. We do need to be more brave because the bashful is led by fear which often is u realized.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Spot on, Birgit! We cannot allow the fear to rule. Thank you for commenting. Have a lovely week.

      Delete
  40. Hey cool! My A-Z theme is about confidence, and it was actually inspired because my bashfulness in being a new writer almost had me beat!

    Sue Hernandez
    Wordpress Blogs: Learning to write and A-to-Z Challenge (#965)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Look forward to some inspiration from your posts Sue. The bashfulness is harmful if we let it be. Thanks for visiting.

      Delete
  41. Well, if writers of prose are so bashful then what chance does a poet have? Nil!-anjana :D

    Best always.

    Bold is beautiful!

    Madly-in-Verse

    ReplyDelete
  42. I agree, discussing one's work with like minded people does feel liberating. I find reading fellow writer's works quite inspiring as well and gives me enough joy and encouragement to start mine. Nice post, all the best for D and I will be coming back for more !

    @Subhmohanty from
    And Life Unfolds...
    A to Z Challenge 2016
    A*Alone
    B*Butterfly
    C*Curry

    ReplyDelete
  43. Being shy has definitely affected me greatly over my life. I'm a little more bold now that I'm older, but I still blush and sometimes lose my voice!

    ReplyDelete
  44. I probably fall in the more bashful category.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Hello! So pleased you've popped by. I love to read your comments, so do leave one - even if it's just to say 'hi'!