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Happy New Year Everyone! Welcome to 2016 and the year’s first group posting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group, founded by Alex J. Cavanaugh. It’s a safe place for writers to express their fears and insecurities in a supportive environment.

Before the holiday season, my daughter reminded me that opportunities need to be sought out and taken or if necessary, created.

This wise reminder came about when I told my daughter how proud I am of her. At the latter end of 2015 she decided that her life and career had veered off course and she was not doing what she wanted to do. So, she made some drastic changes.

She moved from London to live with family in the north of England and after a couple of months of contemplation and unconditional loving support, she sought out the opportunities that would give her the future she had wished for since childhood. Within two weeks, just before Christmas, she’d gained a position for a PhD in Chemistry, moved into a two bedroomed townhouse and organized her life for the better. I was amazed at her determination and focus (and bowled over by the speed of this transition).

When I talked to her about this, I was pleasantly surprised at her response. She said that I had taught her the value of self-belief and hard work and if we put our minds to something we can achieve anything. “That’s what you’ve always done, Mom,” she said. This knocked me aback. I’d forgotten I had such a feisty, go-getting side. It is what I’d always done and when an opportunity wasn’t forthcoming, I had created my own. [Hmmmm, light bulb moment!]

Over the past two and a half years, I have spent far too long waiting for opportunity to come knocking, especially with my writing. So, my target for 2016 is to stop hanging about, revert to my former self and create my own opportunities so that I can forge a prosperous future.

I wish you all a year filled with self-belief, gumption and success.

Me and my Alice
Have you ever forgotten your own abilities and needed to be reminded of them? Does someone inspire you in a similar way my daughter inspires me? Have you experienced any recent revelations about your character?

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  1. How awesome for your daughter. And you! What a great reminder of what we are capable of accomplishing.

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    1. She is awesome :) Thanks for stopping by Alex. All the best for the coming year.

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  2. Happy New Year to you too! I often have to remind myself of my own abilities, give myself a good kick up the bum, and just get back on with it. Good luck for the coming year. :-)

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    1. It's so easy to forget what skill set we have actually managed to accomplish. A swift kick is all we need to hone in on them. Have a great year, Diane.

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  3. I 'send you' inspiration for your writing. :)

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    1. Awww thanks Mac. Have a great week!

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  4. That is such a wonderful story, Nicola! What a darling daughter. Congratulations, you did a marvellous job of parenting. Hope we hear more on how your dear daughter is doing.

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    1. Thank you, Joylene. My daughter is precious so you'll probably hear more about her in the future. I can't help myself :) Thank you for popping over to comment. Have a lovely week.

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  5. What a wonderful first post of 2016, Nicola - both you and your daughter are inspirational and I wish you both huge success and happiness this year.

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    1. Thank you, Rosemary! I look forward to hearing more about your WIPs and wish you continued success throughout the year.

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  6. This gave me chills, Nic. You go girl!!!

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    1. Thank you Karen. Have a lovely week.

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  7. What a sweet story. My daughter is my hero of frequently inspires me. Good luck on your endeavors!

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    1. We are both lucky. Wishing you continued success. Thank you for popping by. Lovely 'to see' you.

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  8. What a wonderful reminder! Your daughter is very brave to make such life changing adjustments. Sometimes we have to kick the door down instead of waiting for it to open.

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    1. I've decided to erect my own door - a swinging, transparent door that allows me in whenever I want to enter :) Thanks so much for commenting Cherie. Lovely 'to see' you.

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  9. Go get 'em! It's great to hear your daughter found the life she wanted and even better hearing that you inspired her in that direction. I hope you find and make your opportunities for 2016, and I hope they come along quickly like they did for your daughter.

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    1. Thank you, Loni. I think 2 weeks is pushing it but I will try my best to make things happen this year. Good luck and much fun with your WIP!

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  10. That is very wise. So many people don't even realize that. If we want something, we need to go out there and get it and if it's not available create if for ourselves. So true. :) Happy 2016!!!

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    1. Thank you, Chrys. Happy New Year and thank you for stopping by to comment. Wishing you continued success throughout the year and beyond!

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  11. Ah, gumption! One of my favourite words, but one we don't hear much these days. Yes, thanks for reminding me. I definitely need more gumption this year!

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    1. I don't know what made me think of that word. It just popped into my fingers as I typed. It's a lovely word to type too - try it :) just rolls off the keys. Wishing you lots of success this year!

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  12. Your daughter is definitely an inspiration to grasp hold of one's life and make it all it can be. Good for her! You've obviously done something right with her. All the best to you during this year and beyond!

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    1. Thank you very much Sheri! I love your new website: http://www.salarsenbooks.com It's fab!! Lots of luck with all that you do this year.

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  13. At times we all need someone to remind us about our goals. Love the word gumption. You don't often see or hear it now and it's such a good word.

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    1. I often need gentle reminders. It's so easy to get caught up with everything that's going on around us. I'm gonna use the word gumption at least once in all my stories :) It just popped into my head as I wrote :) Have a lovely week, Lynne.

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  14. What a great story. Yes, you do deserve the credit for your daughter taking her direction in life in her control. I know, I forget myself too. Something like this knocks us back on our feet as a reminder. Thanks for the inspiration

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    1. Thank you so much for visiting and taking the time to comment, Janet. Lovely 'to meet' you! Have a lovely week and a year filled with continued success.

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  15. I love that. Yes, I see those reminders every day in my kids. (Ah, the perks of home schooling.) Way to be a good mom and raise a wonderful, contributing daughter.

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    1. It's only now that I can appreciate that I did a good job. And she reminds me often, which is lovely. Thanks for popping by to comment Crystal.

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  16. Funny how we can teach our children by doing something and not learn the lesson ourselves. I need to pay attention more. ;-)

    Anna from elements of emaginette

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    1. So right, Anna. I used to teach teenagers how to write stories but forgot the golden rules when it came to writing my own :):) Thanks for stopping by.

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  17. Your daughter is a terrific inspiration! I hope I can raise my son with such amazing qualities. Here's to a grand 2016 for all of us. :)

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    1. I'm raising a glass of Champagne to you, Christine (well it's a hot mug of coffee but we can use our imagination :)). Enjoy every minute of your son whilst he is still at home, Christine. They grow up and move away far too quickly. Thank goodness for the phone and video calls :)

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  18. Ha, it often take someone else to remind us about that other, sometimes forgotten, side of ourselves that needs to be nurtured and then let loose on the world.

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    1. Thank you for stopping by to comment Lynda. Happy New Year!

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  19. I have forgotten pieces of myself, and then been reminded. Sometimes we get so far outside ourselves, we lose that bit for awhile. Good luck in reclaiming yourself!

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    1. Thank you Shannon! Lovely to 'see' you. Have a great week.

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  20. What a positive start to the new year, both for your daughter and for you! It's so easy to just go through the motions of life without considering if it's really what you want to do. I'm inspired, thank you!

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    1. Thank you for popping by to comment, Annalisa. Wishing you a fantastic 2016!

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  21. How lovely to read this and what an amazing person your daughter is. Hope you have a wonderful 2016 full of inspiration and happiness xx

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  22. What a tribute to you as a mother and role model. Best wishes for a great 2016.

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    1. Thank you, Diane. Wishing you continued success throughout 2016 and onwards.

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  23. Happy new year, Nicola.

    No startling revelations, but it's slowly dawning on me that the harder I try the better I do. Supose it should have been obvious really.

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    1. Thank you, Patsy. I've been accused of trying too hard in the past, which can be counter productive. Finding the balance is key. Wishing you continued success and I loved your article in WM :) Have a great new week.

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  24. This is a wonderful message. I believe in grabbing opportunities as well as looking for them. That's how goals gets achieved.

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    1. Exactly, Medeia. Just needed to be reminded :)Have a great new week and thank you for commenting. It's always lovely 'to see' you.

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  25. Sounds like she's a real credit to you. We definitely have to make our own chances. Wishing both of you all the best this year!

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    1. Thank you, Nick. Wishing you and your family a year filled with laughter and joy.

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  26. Your daughter is an inspiration to us all. Wishing you great things for 2016, Nicola - your determination will pay off, I'm sure.

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    1. Thank you, Wendy. Wishing you another year filled with success and publication. Congratulations on such a successful 2015.

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  27. What a great post, Nicola. The pride you have in your daughter shines through and with her inspiration I'm sure you will achieve what you hope for this year. My very best wishes to you.

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    1. Thank you, Jan. I am blessed. Wishing you continued success and happiness throughout the year.

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  28. Ah the student becomes the teacher. How wonderful for your daughter and best of luck to you.

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    1. Thank you, TB. So true :) Have a great week.

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  29. This was beautiful to read...I see so many parents and children truly not liking each other so this was really nice to read. My mom inspired me and I believe in the same philosophy. Good for you for finding the inspiration in your daughter that you gave to her.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Birgit. My mother inspires me every day too. I consider myself lucky to have a wonderful mother and a beautiful daughter. Don't get me wrong - we have our colourful 'spats' too but they never last long :) Have a lovely week.

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  30. What a sweet and inspiring story! Here's to a wonderful 2016 in your writing world.

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    1. Thank you, Lee. Wishing you a lovely week and a year filled with success and happiness.

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